Getting married is SICK. We got so many books. More than a birthday. Even more than first day of college! Wow. By reading these books we are going to become so good and so wise. Like mega-brains 🧠. Thank you for these books. Except you, Aaron. We don't look forward to taking your gift on the flight to New York.
| who gave | book | author |
|---|---|---|
| aaron | the anarchist cookbook | william powell |
| aditi | toot & puddle | holly hobbie |
| alex | still life with woodpecker | tom robbins |
| allie | a manual for cleaning women | lucia berlin |
| andrew | daytripper | fábio moon and gabriel bá |
| antonia and connor | the thousand autumns of jacob de zoet | david mitchell |
| anya | welcome to the hyunam-dong bookshop | hwang bo-reum |
| archana | the miracle of mindfulness | thich nhat hanh |
| brian | the anthropocene reviewed | john green |
| chai | be here now | ramdas |
| chinmaya | mastery | robert green |
| chris | the mezzanine | nicholson baker |
| cormac | the art of gathering | priya parker |
| dylan | the diamond age | neal stephenson |
| ekin | giraffes can't dance | giles andreae and guy parker-rees |
| elise | notes from a small island | bill bryson |
| esin | what to cook when you don't feel like cooking | caroline chambers |
| esin, efe and ekin | a philosophy of walking | frédéric gros |
| ilona | they can't kill us until they kill us | hanif abdurraqib |
| isabel & manny | we both laughed in pleasure | lou sullivan, edited by elis martin and zach ozma |
| julia | laziness does not exist | devon price |
| karen & cam | the essential calvin and hobbes | bill watterson |
| manny & isabel | prison writings | leonard peltier |
| manu lauria (groom's father) | jonathan livingston seagull | richard bach |
| meera | all about love | bell hooks |
| mel | the giving tree | shel silverstein |
| monica | are we smart enough to know how smart animals are | frans de waal |
| morgan | into the wild | jon krakauer |
| naina | gilead | marilynne robinson |
| nidhi lauria (groom's mother) | why good things happen to good people | stephen post and jill neimark |
| nolen | i, claudius | robert graves |
| piyush | karma | sadhguru |
| rachel | they can't kill us until they kill us | hanif abdurraqib |
| rajiv dholakia (bride's father) | it's easier than you think | sylvia boorstein |
| sara | to be taught, if fortunate | becky chambers |
| sean | the body keeps the score | bessel van der kolk |
| smita joshi (bride's mother) | 1491 | charles c. mann |
| stefan | musicophilia | oliver sacks |
| steve | the gift | lewis hyde |
| tania, andrew and miles | art book of love (and others in box set) | shana gozansky |
| viktoria | imaginable | jane mcgonigal |
| zach | the wide, wide sea | hampton sides |
Please fill out this form to tell us which events you're coming to and what you're doing for Sangeet!
The "formal events" are on 7/3 & 7/4. Outside those we'll be hanging around all weekend and dream of spontaneous hangs and get-togethers. There will be a casual picnic on Saturday (7/5) with whoever is still around and wants to come.
| When | What | Where |
|---|---|---|
| 7/3/2025 4:30pm - 10:45pm | 👰🏾♀️🤵🏾♂️ Wedding | Temescal Beach House, Oakland CA |
| 7/4/2025 6pm - 10pm | 🎭 Sangeet aka Show and Tell | Live Oak Community Center, Berkeley CA |
| 7/5/2025 11am - 3pm | 🧺☀️🍷 Picnic! (casual) | Cragmont Rock Park, Berkeley, CA |
The wedding will run from mid-afternoon into the evening, with dinner and cake provided. Check the weather! It can go from quite hot during the day to cool at night. We recommend lighter clothing and bringing a jacket. The venue has both indoor and outdoor parts and we'll move between them.
2 copies of a book! See "Books as Gifts 📖" below.
Aim to arrive around 4.30pm. The Baraat -- a walk around the lake leaves at 5pm.
You can drive or Uber.
The venue has a dedicated parking lot that fits about 15 cars (link), and there's also an overflow parking lot that's shared with the public.
| When | What |
|---|---|
| 4:30pm | Arrival |
| 5:00pm | Walk around lake (Baraat) |
| 5:45pm | Ceremony |
| 6:00pm – 6:30pm | Book swap |
| 6:30pm – 8:00pm | Dinner/ Speeches / Cake |
| 8:00pm – 10:00pm | Dancing |
Summery, floral, cocktail party vibes.
| 🇮🇳 | - Indian kurta pajama - Salwar Kameez - Lehenga |
| 🇺🇸 | - A suit - Collared shirt & pants - Dress |
My own experience of Baraats is this. The groom gets on a horse, or perhaps a chariot or an elephant if his father is rich. He is joined on his mount by a small child. Around the horse, on the ground, is a very loud brass band in uniform. Right behind are all his friends and family, dancing. The whole procession goes on the street. Cars honk, motorcycles swerve, the group moves slowly forward, continually dancing and singing, all accompanied by the band. They enter the wedding venue and are met by the girl's family. Then: greetings given, garlands exchanged, snacks served.
Ours will be the same but with no horse, no chariot, no elephant, no band, no dancing, no street, no cars, and no motorcycles.
Click here to see what Wikipedia has to say.
A Sangeet (Sung Together from Sanskrit) traditionally occurs before the wedding and is a time for friends and family to join together for song and dance. We're adapting it to be a Show and Tell on the theme of Love, Change and Leaps of Faith.
You. You are the talent.
We'll start the show at 6:30pm and eat around 7pm.
If you're in East Bay or San Francisco, you can Uber directly or you can take BART to Downtown Berkeley. From there take the 18 or 67 bus, or Uber. Keep in mind it will be July 4!
Live Oak Community Center does not have onsite parking, so you will need to find street parking if you're driving.
Whatever you need for your show and tell!
We'll provide a casual dinner (probably pizza) and nonalcoholic beverages (the venue is alcohol free).
Dressy casual.
| 🇮🇳 | - Indian kurta pajama - Salwar Kameez |
| 🇺🇸 | - Shirt & jeans - Collared shirt & pants - Dress |
We recommend taking an Uber from the Downtown Berkeley BART station or carpool.
We will provide pastries & coffee, bring any other treats you want to share.
Casual.
Literally anything.
The closest airports are SFO and OAK. You can take the BART to Berkeley from either.
It's easy to get around with Uber and BART, so you don't need to rent a car unless you really want to.
We recommend you get an AirBnb. If you're worried about finding a place to stay, hit us up and we'll find a way to house you!
Here's a map with:
If you wanna be on-brand on brand.
Contribute to our spotify dance playlist. We are the djs and we need your help.
Everyone loves gifts. Here is what we'd love from you.
Bring TWO copies of ONE book that has either:
Include a note or inscription inside both copies of the book explaining why you picked it.
One copy will find a new home on K&M's wedding book shelf and the other will go into a swap pile at our Wedding. You'll get to go home with a book 💜.
More Qs? Text us and we'll add to this section.
Yes! Children are welcome! Mother Nature put the wiggle in children, so don't feel like you have to suppress it at our event.
No. But please RSVP (especially to the wedding) so we have enough food for everyone!
There will be one! Probably in Jan or Feb 2026. We're figuring out the details and will reach out soon.
Thank you, you dreamy person. We have no registry. If you are so moved, you could donate to one of these two organizations in our names. Drop us a note if you decide to do that!
| Charity | Why we picked it |
|---|---|
| Malaria Consortium (click to donate) | They are GiveWell's top charity because they are cost-effective and give rigorous evidence that the programs they run actually work. |
| World Central Kitchen (click to donate) | Charity Navigator awards them four stars for their work providing food to people struck by disaster, in places including Gaza, Ukraine and Southern California. |
